Update: Thanks to all my blog followers. thank you for your patience and being faithful. I feel like I sound like I am making excuses for my absence. I hate I have not had the energy even to follow up on you all liking my blog posts and such. It seems like I am doing okay for a couple weeks and get hit with some other issue within my medical problems. Someday I hope to get back to a normal schedule and the vitality of health with mind and body. Thanks for your patience. You are all the best.
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#whyistayed #whyileft-Found on another blog-My Melancholia
#whyistayed #whyileft. This author says the reason for staying with an abuser so well, I am borrowing it here.
I added a bit to the title and hope she will not mind. I give her all the credit. Please stop & visit her blog. It is very honest and heartfelt.
I am sharing this for several reasons:
- It is good to know you are not alone in such circumstances whether still there or having left.
- It may be the incentive and encouragement you need either way to get out or keep on. ( I know I have wanted to give in and even give up after I finally did get out.)
- I want to enlighten some folks that ” just have never been there and flippantly say -hurt-fully -even in meaning well-“Why didn’t she just leave?” This lead me to :
- This is about the 8th time I have left. It is the 2nd time I finally was able to get more than just a room at a shelter. I am finally ready to really “make it work” this time. It is so hard to get help. It took me 10 months to get a small apartment. I was at a shelter and was told to leave for 6 months;I had to live for 3 more months with the abuser and I am so thankful the place opened up since I almost wanted to just live in my car when I tried to call and get back into the shelter and they would not let me. This was not because of anything wrong I had done, but because I was too costly with my meds. I could not work because I was trying to get disability and my meds were $200 a month. I tried to get Medicaid, but Missouri is a bad place to do that and they messed with me. I am now waiting on them where I am for it again.
- I also am sharing this because I wish to let you a bit more in on my life. I struggle with mental stuff. I am a very strong person, but depression from bipolar is a fight I have about 60% of days. I can also have extreme anxiety and just a little wrong thing happening on days I have either can make me want to roll up and hide in a cocoon for hours. I am strong because I really never do this. do not be down o yourself if you do do that. (We all have different temperaments and strengths.)
- I said #5 above to lead into # 6 : I really believe that if I had been married to a real gentlemen with a give and take relationship. More as a team and having mercy, grace and love for each others nuances and interests with working together, my mental stuff would have been very minor compared to how it developed with a furious and angry man I lived under.
Now, you may not know what I am really talking about if you do not read her post also. http://chasingdestino.com/2014/09/10/whyistayed-whyileft/ So here is the link again.
slfinnell 6:46 pm on June 7, 2017 Permalink |
Life can certainly throw us curves. Sending well wishes your way!
blueribbonfair 12:02 am on June 8, 2017 Permalink |
Thank you for your kindness.
Amy 12:40 am on June 8, 2017 Permalink |
Thank you so much for the update! Good to hear from you!
Hope everything is going well.
blueribbonfair 3:50 pm on June 13, 2017 Permalink |
Thank you. It is always up and down. “Getting older ain’t for cowards. “
Catherine Townsend-Lyon, Author/Writer 6:49 pm on June 8, 2017 Permalink |
As you know I do have some of the same challenges sweets. So your not alone. SO happy to see you visit my blog though! I will send healthy vibes and prayers your way. I hope all else is blessed your way. I have been MIA over on my Book Blog as I am deep in writing again two book projects!
One is my 2nd book and I am excited and blessed to say I am co-writing a memoir with/for a former NFL Pro from the Denver Broncos. SOON I can say who, but not quite yet. I’m happy to see you BACK and I won’t stay away so long! LOL.
Love & Light,
Cat
blueribbonfair 3:15 pm on June 13, 2017 Permalink |
Wow, that is exciting. I am adopted by my biological family are from Colorado close to Denver and love the Broncos. Hoping a prosperous journey with you in both your new book projects. Thank you for your kind words.
Catherine Townsend-Lyon, Author/Writer 12:45 am on June 16, 2017 Permalink
Thanks so much. I WILL make sure you get an autographed copy when we release this Fall since your a Bronco Fan! XO Catherine
BluKatDesign Upcycled Jewelry 3:46 pm on June 13, 2017 Permalink |
I hope you feel better, I totally get it. I used to hike & compete in power lifting but just have no idea when a migraine is going to hit now. So hard to keep to a schedule!
blueribbonfair 12:35 am on June 16, 2017 Permalink |
I feel for you also. A couple of my kids have migraines and my mom had them so bad. So sorry, they are no fun.
blueribbonfair 10:29 pm on June 21, 2017 Permalink |
Catherine, thank you looking forward to it.
Christy B 2:13 am on June 14, 2017 Permalink |
Take care xx We know you will be around when you have more energy.. Until then we send hugs
blueribbonfair 12:31 am on June 16, 2017 Permalink |
You are an amazing lady Christy B
Christy B 9:00 pm on June 16, 2017 Permalink
Awww ❤ That's how I feel about you
Dan Escobar 12:44 pm on June 19, 2017 Permalink |
It’s difficult to keep our blogs updated, sometimes our own minds and bodies can be our worst enemies. Personally it helps me to exercise three times per week, it not only shapes the body but the mind to be more disciplined. Despite that, I’m struggling to keep my blog updated as much as I’d like and sometimes feel overwhelmed by all the aspects a webmaster has to take care of. What I’m doing is taking baby steps, I take the time I need to learn the new tricks like SEO, social marketing or monetization and stop worrying about putting content on the blog. Imho blogging has to be a balanced journey between the right amount of struggle, effort and a healthy dose of having fun, learning new abilities.
Take care.
blueribbonfair 10:39 pm on June 21, 2017 Permalink |
Thank you for your encouraging words.
blueribbonfair 10:27 pm on June 21, 2017 Permalink |
Thank you.
Charlotte Hoather 6:49 pm on June 29, 2017 Permalink |
You do you thing in your own time 💕
Hope you feel some of the energy thoughts I’m send your way 🌈
Take care
blueribbonfair 1:06 am on July 8, 2017 Permalink |
Thanks Charlotte.
Kally 8:11 am on July 21, 2017 Permalink |
Your health comes first.. take care dear friend.
blueribbonfair 11:50 pm on July 24, 2017 Permalink |
Thank you. You always lift my spirits.
Kally 3:55 am on July 25, 2017 Permalink
Just like you always lift mine 🙂